It's been our family rule that my kids can't play at homes where I don't know the parents. My 8 year old twin boys have been begging me to let them play at the neighbor kids house. I told them no for months. I see their mom on the playground. We have exchanged salutations. We are even involved in some of the same activites i.e. soccer and scouting.
Last Saturday, I gave in and told them they could play over there for an hour. I thought it was weird when them came home after only 30 minutes. I didn't fnd out until bedtime why they came home early.
It wasn't five minutes after I shut off their lights, they were downstairs and crying. They said they had seen a scary movie at the neighbors. I told them they could sleep in my bed. I told them what they saw wasn't real. I asked them if the mom knew what they were watching, they said she did (that's questionable.) I asked the boy, who seemed less freaked out, what the movie was about. He said it was about man eating worms. Turns out the movie was Tremors. (Thanks a lot Kevin Bacon!) I haven't seen it, my husband has.
The next morning they were fine and it was all but forgotten, but I did let my boys know that they weren't going over there again. I told them I was sorry. This was my fault. I didn't know the lady as well as I should have and obviously they have different rules at their house. The one good thing that came out of it is now my boys appreciate more and understand why we have some of the rules that we do.
I vacillated on whether to say something to the neighbor lady or not. I have to live in this neighborhood for a long time and I would just rather avoid strained relations.
What would you have done?